To be honest, I’m not the biggest fan of the idea of a new year’s resolution. Not that I don’t believe people should better themselves, but because I believe that they potentially allow us to place unrealistic expectations on ourselves. Not everyone who makes the resolution to lose twenty pounds actually has twenty pounds they can safely lose. Not everyone who wants to run a marathon in 2017 is going to be physically capable of that. And I also don’t think people should put off bettering themselves until a certain date on the calendar.
So this year, instead of making a new year’s resolution, make a “bettering me resolution” right now! Think of a “bettering me resolution” as:
I want to become more fit as opposed to I want to lose ‘x’ amount of weight
I want to inspire people as oppose to I want to be famous
I want to practice self love as oppose to I want to find a girlfriend/boyfriend
See the difference in the ways we are approaching our “bettering me resolutions”? We are bettering ourselves and focusing on the good as opposed to setting potentially unrealistic goals and setting ourselves up for failure or using our resolution to once again tear ourselves down. We want you to focus on bettering yourself for yourself and for a positive reason. To FEEL better as opposed to LOOKING better. To influence and help others as oppose to selfish gain. To love and appreciate yourself as opposed to needing someone else’s acceptance to feel valued.
And also, consider this. You set your resolution to be to lose 25 lbs in 2016. Fast forward to July. You’ve kept to a strict diet, you’ve gone to the gym 3-5 times a week, and you step on the scale and you’ve only lost 5 lbs. How likely are you to continue what you’re doing? How much “value” are you placing on the number on the scale versus the actual benefits you’re receiving physically and mentally? Strength, ease of breath, calmness of the mind, stamina, etc.
My current bettering me resolutions:
Be grateful for what I already have. Over the past few days I’ve really started to minimize my material possessions to eventually only have the things that I truly need and use and can truly be grateful for having. My hope is that in 2017 I will spend virtually no money on anything materialistic that is not a necessity. It’s hard to root gratitude in what you have when you have too much to acknowledge or you’re constantly bringing more in. This also extends to the people I put my time and love into. You aren’t required to create or maintain space for anyone else in your life. If they don’t value you, appreciate you, and create something positive in your life, it’s probably time to bid them farewell.
Whatever you decide for your resolution, and whenever you decide to start it, whether it’s today, new year’s day, or may 4th, we wish you the very best in 2017 ❤ XX Joe